What age is The Messenger appropriate for?

Rated R in the US. 17, alone or with a parent; 12 in France. The whole movie, watched in full: what's in it, and how to talk about it with your child.

Why is The Messenger not recommended under 17?

What's in it: the official rating, first; announcing death, door after door; sex at the start, alcohol everywhere; swearing and memories of Iraq. The detail, fact by fact, is in the zinema guide, which reads the work itself (images, sound, dialogue).

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The Messenger: what age is it for? 17, alone or with a parent

From 17, alone or with a parent.

Movie · 2009 · 1 h 53 · drama, romance, war

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The trailer

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not yetwith an adult, or to talk about afteralonethe sweet spot

The official US rating is R, and we never go below it. Alone from 17, and not before, even with an adult.

The sweet spot: around 17, when you can follow a slow film about grief, and wonder what war costs those who stay behind. Why a sweet spot?

Official US rating: R. In France, zinema would say 12.

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What it's about

Will Montgomery, a U.S. Army Staff Sergeant who has returned home from Iraq, is assigned to the Army’s Casualty Notification service. Montgomery is partnered with Captain Tony Stone, to give notice to the families of fallen soldiers. The Sergeant is drawn to Olivia Pitterson, to whom he has delivered news of her husband’s death.

Why 17

The official rating, firstRated R in the US (restricted, under 17 requires an accompanying parent). zinema never goes below the country's rating: it explains it.
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Announcing death, door after doorThe film strings together announcements to parents, wives, fathers who hit or spit; screams, collapses, a broken man who drinks. Death is spoken of twenty-four times, never shown.
Sex at the start, alcohol everywhereA brief sex scene with a bare breast in the first minutes, a suggested night later; the two soldiers drink a lot, fourteen mentions of alcohol.
Swearing and memories of IraqAbout thirty swear words in French, combat recounted on the return from Iraq, a drunken scene at a wedding that turns into shoving; weapons in the memories.

What the movie brings

What war costs those who stay behind, filmed from the side of those who knock on the door.
Two broken men who help each other without saying so: Ben Foster and Woody Harrelson.
A film about Iraq without a single battle scene.

Watching it together

Before

Warn that a sex scene opens the film and that the rest is made of grief; it is a slow, adult film.

After

at 17 and up

The captain forbids touching the families or saying "I'm sorry": why those rules, and should they be followed?

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The latest guides

A zinema reading from September 20, 2026 · the whole movie, watched in full · the age by zinema's rules for the US and France, and a human reading · report an error · how this guide is made