What age is Her appropriate for?

Rated R in the US. 17, alone or with a parent; 15 in France. The whole movie, watched in full: what's in it, and how to talk about it with your child.

Why is Her not recommended under 17?

What's in it: the official rating, first; sex you hear and never see; a break-up, at length. The detail, fact by fact, is in the zinema guide, which reads the work itself (images, sound, dialogue).

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Her: what age is it for? 17, alone or with a parent

From 17, alone or with a parent.

Movie · 2013 · 2 h 06 · romance, science fiction, drama

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The trailer

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not yetwith an adult, or to talk about afteralonethe sweet spot

The official US rating is R, and we never go below it. Alone from 17, and not before, even with an adult.

The sweet spot: around 17-19, the age at which you have had a break-up of your own, or a conversation that mattered more than a presence, and the film's slowness becomes an asset. Why a sweet spot?

Official US rating: R. In France, zinema would say 15.

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What it's about

In the not so distant future, Theodore, a lonely writer, purchases a newly developed operating system designed to meet the user's every need. To Theodore's surprise, a romantic relationship develops between him and his operating system. This unconventional love story blends science fiction and romance in a sweet tale that explores the nature of love and the ways that technology isolates and connects us all.

Why 17

The official rating, firstRated R in the US (restricted, under 17 requires an accompanying parent). zinema never goes below the country's rating: it explains it.
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Sex you hear and never seeThe film opens on an anonymous phone-sex chat, crude and awkward. Later, Theodore and Samantha make love by voice: the screen goes black and you hear everything. Another time, a young woman lends her body to the couple, and the scene goes wrong. Nothing is shown, and it is still a film about adult desire from end to end.
A break-up, at lengthThe divorce, the sadness, the nights alone, the shame: two hours of a man who is unwell and hides it. No violence, no danger, but a slow pace that asks for attention. People smoke, people have a drink.

What the movie brings

The question asked ten years before everyone else: what is a relationship with a machine that says exactly the right thing worth?
A believable future with no giant screens or flying cars, just people talking to themselves in the street.
One of the truest descriptions of what a break-up does, without a single argument scene.

Watching it together

Before

At fourteen, the borrowed-body scene needs a sentence afterwards; it is the most uncomfortable moment in the film.

After

at 17 and up

Samantha says she really feels: how would we know, and does it change anything?

See the facts

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The latest guides

A zinema reading from September 23, 2026 · the whole movie, watched in full · the age by zinema's rules for the US and France, and a human reading · report an error · how this guide is made